- I began planning for the school year (gross)
- I did some laundry
- I reorganized my desktop (<-- geek)
- ...and I inherited lots of new music
How productive is that for never leaving the house?! I am going on vacation at the end of the week to California (AKA: the next best state other than Tejas), and I am thrilled to be going back. My brother and his family invited me to tag along with them and I'm so very excited to have a great time in LA, Disneyland, San Francisco, and perhaps Yosemite National Park. I may very well geek out when I meet Mickey Mouse and Belle, I've never been to Disney, and I think my early twenties is the perfect age to experience such magic, don't you? You bet there will be pictures to document the experience.
|The beautiful city of Austin, Texas from one of my favorite spots on SoCo|
I am willing to bet that there are readers who have known someone in a LDR that failed and the culprit of that relationship not working was the distance. My recent trip to Austin, Texas, and my life experiences have confirmed my thoughts about LDR's. You see, I think it's easy to place blame on the distance because this is something that won't cause the people in the relationship to dissect themselves. "Oh, it was the distance, we just couldn't do it." No, you absolutely could, you just chose not to. Take the time to evaluate whether you are actually compatible as a couple, are you the best people for each other? Is your brain thinking, "I know there may very well be someone better for me out there"?
If you want to be with someone, despite distance, jobs, languages, and cultural barriers you find a way. Love finds a way. It's easy to google LDR's and be discouraged because of how cliché it has become for a LDR to not work. I think it's also important to note that all other aspects of a relationship must apply for a LDR to thrive. For example, you may both be in a LDR, but you should be in it working towards the same vision or relationship goals. Whether this goal is to end up in the same city after two years, or marriage, or continue dating for a year after you are in the same city. Whatever your relationship vision is, it's important to be on the same page in your LDR and talk about it often.
It may sound strange, but I find that there is something so utterly romantic about a healthy LDR. Two people who love each other desperately, but cannot be in the same
city planet(<--ha) country. I know, I know, no one actually wants to be in a LDR, but I'm just sayin' it can be really romantic. There's even a saying in Spanish that goes like this...
Amor de lejos, amor de pendejos, which loosely translates to, "love from afar is love for fools"
Doesn't sound promising, does it?
You just have to be smart about it, and of course working towards the same things in the relationship. But true love, the lasting kind, the love that is patient and kind and not jealous, that is the love that surpasses all, even distance. You'll know...and risking your heart like that doesn't make you a fool.
P.S. Here's a better look at the Cat Eye mentioned in this morning's post.
|Gladys & I at The Oasis in ATX|
Do you believe that a LDR can work?