Saturday, March 16, 2013

Whaley // Solidarity // Intentions

My favorite spot these days
Let's talk about how much time I have spent on my front porch since 3:30pm yesterday, or rather since this past week.  My front porch has become a place of solidarity for me.  A place for deep thoughts, for rejuvenation after a long day at work, for remembering to enjoy the simple things, the small things, the little pleasures that a stressful and hectic job can make you take for granted.  I will miss this Louisiana town so much in a few months.  This chapter of my life is ending and a new one is beginning in less than six months.  Wherever I go, this front porch will be reminisced.

I would just like to preface this post by saying that my intentions are not to devalue men or women in their mid-twenties to early thirties, but to simply express some current observations and thoughts.

Lately my girlfriends and I have been discussing relationships, both old and current and I feel that many women in their twenties feel jaded towards men.  I cannot speak for men, maybe they too feel jaded towards women.  I have taken a slight noticing that many men do not seem to mature or as we, the women say, "grow up."  I would hate to say this is only one gender, I am just speaking from a woman's point of view.  It could possibly be that there are two extremes of people once we reach a certain post-adolescent age.  One group being the group of individuals with mature thoughts, those that understand and acknowledge how to interact with the opposite sex fully.  Courtship, dating, and not afraid of being "real" with other people.  Providing clarity, communicating, and being courteous.  If you are not interested in talking to someone anymore, tell them that.  If you are not interested in dating someone, communicate that.  If you are interested in someone, communicate your intentions to them.  As humans, we (both sexes), want to understand the causes and effects of our interpersonal relationships.  It is becoming more and more socially acceptable to simply allow ourselves to be ignored and to accept that and with time to let it go.  I think this stems from a fear of rejection, both of rejecting someone else or of  being the receiver of rejection.  Easier said than done, right?

Thoughts on the above? 

On a less serious note, here are some happenings from my week:
Beer on a Tuesday Night
Wine Down Wednesdays  
 Senior Class Ring Ceremony! Class of 2014
Eating like a true Louisiana girl, with the right reading material ;)
If you are one of my close friends, you may be receiving the post card below :)
I love whales.


3 comments:

  1. Maturity is a skill needing to be learned and taught therefore age is irrelevent in the equation the notion that men should mature with age is more like:
    Men could mature with age only if taught the skill and learned.
    Formula for future use:
    (Maturity=Taught Skill+Learned Skill)
    Behaviore exhibited: Assertiveness,Responsibility,and in lamest terms calling back the person and stating their interest of courtship, friendship, etc.
    PS:To help out with the gender commented earlier this formula applies to both genders!

    I hope this helps!

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  2. Laura!! <3

    Ahh, what I would do to sit on my porch in WARM weather and watch the sun set. So very "Notebook" of us :)

    Looking good with your bangs, girl! :)

    xo

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  3. Lately my girlfriends and I have been discussing relationships, both old and current and I feel that many women in their twenties feel jaded towards men. I cannot speak for men, maybe they too feel jaded towards women. I have taken a slight noticing that many men do not seem to mature or as we, the women say, "grow up."

    http://marginalrevolution.com/marginalrevolution/2013/03/puzzles-in-search-of-answers-why-are-men-losing-ground.html

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